If you’ve been in any relationship, then surely you are not new to the world of break ups. There are so many types of break ups, including ones that were done with a mutual agreement, and then there are ones where you never wanted to end the relationship, but the other person did. In fact, if you’re reading this, you may be the guy who’s fallen into the latter category, and you just don’t know what to do. Don’t worry, though: You can still get her back. Want to know how? Read on and discover five things you need to do now in order to win her back.
#1: Acknowledge that she needs her space.
No matter what the circumstances were, break ups are never easy. With that in mind, it’s very important that you don’t start serenading her right off the bat. That also means don’t call her, don’t text her, or message her. If you see her in a crowd, or at the store, it’s perfectly fine to keep it civil and allow yourself a simple ‘hi.’ You just don’t want to overdo it.
#2: Think back to what caused the break up
Did it come as a total surprise? Was it because of something you did? There are two (or more) sides to every story. Part of being an adult is owning up to your mistakes. If you discover that you did, in fact, do something wrong, then own up to it. Don’t just say you’re sorry to her, show her that you are sorry. Actions speak louder than words, and while this may not guarantee that she will want to get back with you, taking responsibility will certainly have an impact on her, maybe enough to even think about giving the relationship another shot.
#3: Gifts are fine, but a letter with flowers would be better.
If you’re using gifts as nothing more than a cheap gimmick to win her back, then that is insulting. No, you don’t have to go crazy and buy her engagement ring and shout your love to her from the rooftops (this actually could backfire), but if you do try to win her back with gifts, they need to be genuine. For example: It’s still a good idea to send her a bouquet of flowers. It could be a good idea to include a note that says how much you love her, why you love her, and how much you miss her. Remind her of the good times you guys had while you were together. If you did something that really hurt her, apologize for it in the letter.
#4: Realize that this is not a race.
This actually could go hand in hand with number one. Jumping right into trying to win her back is just going to make you look desperate. Women don’t find men who are desperate, clingy, or needy attractive. If you took the time to court her into getting her into a relationship with you, then there’s no reason why you can’t take the time to win her back.
#5: Do you have an ego? Kick it out the door.
It’s no lie that men can be very prideful beings, and this one can also go hand in hand with numbers four and two. No one is saying that having pride is a bad thing, but in this case, it’s a good idea to ditch that ego. This piece of advice is probably overused, but there’s a reason for that. It is humility and responsibility that speaks volumes to a woman, not ego and tough pride.
While there is absolutely no guarantee that any of these will work, if she honestly means that much to you, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t give these five tips a try.