I came across a great dating and relationship article on TheUrbanDater.com. Not only was the article enjoyable, but it was unique in the sense it took a group approach to analyzing guys who give out their telephone number instead of taking the girls. Loaded with different opinions from other dating and relationship bloggers and more importantly great feedback through reader’s comments, the article was the perfect scenario for a guy’s view versus a girl’s view.
Below are a few excerpts from the article:
If he gives her HIS number, it could be seen as one way of weeding out the women who aren’t really interested. – Jeffrey Platts of www.JeffreyPlatts.com
It’s not a good move and I’ll give you 3 good reasons why:
It tells us you have low self-esteem. This will kill any chance you thought you had with us. If you don’t believe you can get in to our pants, we will confirm that belief. – Lucky Lass writes for the blog lucklass.wordpress.com
“There are many reasons a guy gives out his number, but the main reason is that he wants to hear from you.” – Maruska Morena runs the popular dating blog, DatingTakeTwo.blogspot.com
I tend to think that the guy that does this errs on the side of being insecure more times than not. Society expects us men to be aggressive and to get out there and take what we want. Many women like can-do attitude, or perhaps a ‘will-do-you’ attitude. Either way it lets a woman know that you’re assertive and willing to get out there and get what you want. Trust me, that’s what women really want. To be pursued. – Yannibmbr of TheUrbanDater.com
Personally, I don’t think guys give it that much thought. As a woman I know I don’t. I will agree with Yannibmbr that most women like to be pursued. With the exception of one weird experience, I can honestly say the last couple of times I have exchanged numbers with a guy it’s been really easy. The guy asks for my number and I give it to him if I am interested. The guy immediately calls from his cell phone and tells me to lock in his number. By doing so, we actually exchange numbers. If not, he may simply offer me one of his business cards.
Recently, a guy asked me for my number and I politely told him that he could give me his number instead. I did this for a number of reasons, but mainly because I was not really interested. After being hesitant and unwilling to give me his number, I quickly realized he was probably in a relationship. I believe if a man is interested in girl he should be willing to “exchange” numbers and should not have a problem with offering his. Again, I don’t think guys give it that much thought, but in this situation there was definitely something suspicious.
Take the jump over to TheUrbanDater.com to unplug the entire article. I highly recommend this as a must read.