Research shows that 90 percent of the problems women have in achieving orgasm stem from a psychological nature. Here’s some useful information to help you examine why your girl may not be getting an orgasm and some interesting facts about the subject:

1) If your girl can achieve an orgasm alone, but not with you in the room, it may be performance anxiety.

2) Is she anxious, worried or feeling pressured to have an orgasm? That can work against her and build anxiety. Anxiety is an arousal response — it can cause tension. An orgasm is a relaxation response. Those two just don’t work together. You must make this experience anxiety free and expectation free.

3) 50 to 75% of women can’t reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation. So, make clitoral stimulation part of your lovemaking.

4) If you bring her close to orgasm, before intercourse, you’ll have a better chance of getting her there.

5) Reasons for failure to climax include: sexual ignorance, sexual anxiety, and fear of letting go.

6) Women often believe that they can’t climax internally, and have psyched themselves out… she has to change her internal dialogue to believe that it’s something she can achieve. Getting her to do this might be tricky. Slight suggestions in a tactful way… could do the trick in helping to change her thinking.

7) Ten to 15 percent of American women have never experienced an orgasm.

8) Only 35 percent of the female population will orgasm during intercourse.

9) Reasons for failure to climax include: sexual ignorance, sexual anxiety, and fear of letting go.

10) What a woman expects, how she believes she should respond, and how she thinks she should act, will all impact how she experiences, behaves during, and reports her orgasmic event.

— Pathways to Pleasure, Robert W. Birch, Ph.D., Sexologist and Adult Sexuality Educator, 2000.

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